Book- Tuesdays with Morrie
author- Mitch Albom
publisher- Paul Weiss
year published-1977
Precis- Morrie is becoming worse and Mitch is becoming more and more concerned. He feels terrible about Morries death creeping closer. They're meetings become more insightful and Mitch is motivated to change his life styles. This book is becoming repetitive.
“Money is not a substitute for tenderness, and power is not a substitute for tenderness. I can tell you, as I’m sitting here dying, when you need it, neither money nor power will give you the feeling your looking for, no matter how much of it you have.” pg 125
“The truth is you don’t get satisfaction from those things you know what really gives you satisfaction? What? Offering others what you have to give” pg 126
To be completely honest, this book is getting on my nerves. Yes it's insightful and shows a different view on illness and dying but it's very repetitive. Morrie is saying the same things over and over again, it's a good book but someone wouldn't have to read the whole book to get the point.
Sunday, December 19, 2010
Thursday, December 16, 2010
HW 23
Book- Tuesdays with Morrie
author- Mitch Albom
publisher- Paul Weiss
year published-1977
Precis-Morrie is becoming worse and Mitch is becoming more and more concerned. He feels terrible about Morries death creeping closer. They're meetings become more insightful and Mitch is motivated to change his life styles.
Quotes- "Morries approach was exactly the opposite. Turn on the faucet. Wash ourself with the emotion. It wont hurt you. It will help you. " pg 105
This is an example of alternatives to dominant practices. A lot of people like to block out the negative and try not to accept it, but he is accepting the negative and kind of embracing it.
"Same for loneliness : you let go, let the tears flow, feel it completely - but eventually be able to say "All right that was my moment with loneliness. I'm not afraid of feeling lonely, but now I'm going to put that loneliness aside and know that there are other emotions in the world, and I'm going to experience them as well." -105
I'm not sure if this is a health way to deal with emotions, yes you allow yourself to feel them but what if the feelings are too intense and you overwhelm yourself.
""We all yearn in some way to return to those days when we were completely taken care of- unconditional love, unconditional attention. Most of us didn't get a enough" pg 116
I agree with this theory we do yearn for love and attention, and we look to things or people to fill in the hole. I think we all do it subconsciously though and some would never admit to it.
This book isn't really showing me anything new, I always knew there was different ways to deal with death and illness, but this book doesn't ignore the pain that people go through during illness and death. Its also showing how to appreciate the things you have or had and to be able to die peacefully knowing you achieved everything you want in your life.
author- Mitch Albom
publisher- Paul Weiss
year published-1977
Precis-Morrie is becoming worse and Mitch is becoming more and more concerned. He feels terrible about Morries death creeping closer. They're meetings become more insightful and Mitch is motivated to change his life styles.
Quotes- "Morries approach was exactly the opposite. Turn on the faucet. Wash ourself with the emotion. It wont hurt you. It will help you. " pg 105
This is an example of alternatives to dominant practices. A lot of people like to block out the negative and try not to accept it, but he is accepting the negative and kind of embracing it.
"Same for loneliness : you let go, let the tears flow, feel it completely - but eventually be able to say "All right that was my moment with loneliness. I'm not afraid of feeling lonely, but now I'm going to put that loneliness aside and know that there are other emotions in the world, and I'm going to experience them as well." -105
I'm not sure if this is a health way to deal with emotions, yes you allow yourself to feel them but what if the feelings are too intense and you overwhelm yourself.
""We all yearn in some way to return to those days when we were completely taken care of- unconditional love, unconditional attention. Most of us didn't get a enough" pg 116
I agree with this theory we do yearn for love and attention, and we look to things or people to fill in the hole. I think we all do it subconsciously though and some would never admit to it.
This book isn't really showing me anything new, I always knew there was different ways to deal with death and illness, but this book doesn't ignore the pain that people go through during illness and death. Its also showing how to appreciate the things you have or had and to be able to die peacefully knowing you achieved everything you want in your life.
Saturday, December 11, 2010
HW 22
Book- Tuesdays with Morrie
author- Mitch Albom
publisher- Paul Weiss
year published-1977
Precis-Mitch is starting to realize how much a positive influence Morrie had on him, sixteen years later he notices Morrie on television talking about his experience with dying. He reconnects with Morrie and they catch up on old times.
"Why are we embarrassed by silence? What comfort do we find in all the noise?"
-I'm really interested in these two questions. When a room is completely quite its awkward and uncomfortable, but once its rowdy and lively and everyone is talking its normal. Its comfortable and I also wonder why that happens.
"You know, Mitch, now that I'm dying, I've become much more interesting to people"
- People become interested with death when the dominat social practices arent followed. When people dont ask for a normal funeral with everyone wearing black they become interesting.When someone finds out they're dying and they take it lightly they become interesting. Just as when we read the article about prostate cancer and the author was basically making fun of it, we as a class called her insensitive and rude.
"I had the coldest realization the our time was running out. And I had to do something"
- I noticed that people only start to really care when someone is dying or died. For example if a relative that you weren't really close to died your still expected to call and morn with the family. The person who died wouldn't have crossed your mind unless they died. It seems like when death occurs people want to turn a new leaf, they want to do things they never done before travel the world. But they only have motivation when death comes around
The book changed my views on death, I use to think it was a dark sad thing that we cant escape. Morrie's view on death is refreshing, his philosophies are interesting to. Hes happy with the life he lived and is trying to spend his last few moments happy. It also shows me that having insurance doesn't mean anything. Morrie has the best doctors and probably the best medicines but is still dying. There isn't a price tag on life and apparently they're isn't a price tag on death.
author- Mitch Albom
publisher- Paul Weiss
year published-1977
Precis-Mitch is starting to realize how much a positive influence Morrie had on him, sixteen years later he notices Morrie on television talking about his experience with dying. He reconnects with Morrie and they catch up on old times.
"Why are we embarrassed by silence? What comfort do we find in all the noise?"
-I'm really interested in these two questions. When a room is completely quite its awkward and uncomfortable, but once its rowdy and lively and everyone is talking its normal. Its comfortable and I also wonder why that happens.
"You know, Mitch, now that I'm dying, I've become much more interesting to people"
- People become interested with death when the dominat social practices arent followed. When people dont ask for a normal funeral with everyone wearing black they become interesting.When someone finds out they're dying and they take it lightly they become interesting. Just as when we read the article about prostate cancer and the author was basically making fun of it, we as a class called her insensitive and rude.
"I had the coldest realization the our time was running out. And I had to do something"
- I noticed that people only start to really care when someone is dying or died. For example if a relative that you weren't really close to died your still expected to call and morn with the family. The person who died wouldn't have crossed your mind unless they died. It seems like when death occurs people want to turn a new leaf, they want to do things they never done before travel the world. But they only have motivation when death comes around
The book changed my views on death, I use to think it was a dark sad thing that we cant escape. Morrie's view on death is refreshing, his philosophies are interesting to. Hes happy with the life he lived and is trying to spend his last few moments happy. It also shows me that having insurance doesn't mean anything. Morrie has the best doctors and probably the best medicines but is still dying. There isn't a price tag on life and apparently they're isn't a price tag on death.
Wednesday, December 8, 2010
HW 21- Expert # 1
Insights/Experiences - "Postive energy", Took them 11 months to fix theyre insurance issue , Didn't go to the doctor when he should of
When she mentioned that they decided to have positive energy and not dwell on the fact that he might die I thought of "Tuesday with Morrie" Morrie also had positive energy and a positive mindset but he accepted the fact that he was going to die. He didn't want to avoid the truth. I think avoiding the truth is easier which is why people tend to lie to themselves. Having postie energy towards a tough situation is a way to cope, and not dwelling on the negative things make people feel better.
When she started speaking about the issue with her insurance company I was shocked, if someone else's life is in danger there's no question about money. He should of been allowed to go straight to the doctors and the company should take care of it themselves. Although we cant escape our death I think that he was able to go to the doctors earlier he would of caught the cancer before it became advance and spread. I think in America everyone is considered a dollar sign and not a human being, I also think money shouldn't be the main focus when it comes to someone's life. Life shouldn't have a price tag.
Beth's presentation didn't spark any questions or further thoughts for me, although her story was sad it was beautiful because she stuck by her husband's side until the end. I'm sure when she went on the blind date with him she didn't expect such a strong relationship to blossom. Her being able to speak so openly about the death of her husband shows her strength and proves that people can get through the lost of a loved one.
When she mentioned that they decided to have positive energy and not dwell on the fact that he might die I thought of "Tuesday with Morrie" Morrie also had positive energy and a positive mindset but he accepted the fact that he was going to die. He didn't want to avoid the truth. I think avoiding the truth is easier which is why people tend to lie to themselves. Having postie energy towards a tough situation is a way to cope, and not dwelling on the negative things make people feel better.
When she started speaking about the issue with her insurance company I was shocked, if someone else's life is in danger there's no question about money. He should of been allowed to go straight to the doctors and the company should take care of it themselves. Although we cant escape our death I think that he was able to go to the doctors earlier he would of caught the cancer before it became advance and spread. I think in America everyone is considered a dollar sign and not a human being, I also think money shouldn't be the main focus when it comes to someone's life. Life shouldn't have a price tag.
Beth's presentation didn't spark any questions or further thoughts for me, although her story was sad it was beautiful because she stuck by her husband's side until the end. I'm sure when she went on the blind date with him she didn't expect such a strong relationship to blossom. Her being able to speak so openly about the death of her husband shows her strength and proves that people can get through the lost of a loved one.
Tuesday, November 30, 2010
HW 19
When I asked my mother about sickness and death; she said that it happens to everyone and there isn't a way to avoid it. Her views on death were more calm then I expected, she didn't sigh or start dwelling on the recent death of her mother. She seems to just accept the fact that one day were all going to die. She is a Jehovah's Witness so she believes that we go to "Sleep" when we die and then after the resurrection the chosen few will rise from the dead and live life on earth. I then asked does she every doubt that that's the truth and she said she has faith in her religion. The conversation then drifted away and eventually I went back into my room, when trying to hold a conversation death and illness is a hard conversation to continue to talk about; eventually everyone starts dwelling on negative things.
Saturday, November 27, 2010
Hw 18
My experience of this holiday fit more into the "anti- body" then "body centered" only because no one was focused on the nutrition side of the meal, thanksgiving is an excuse to eat like a pig and not feel to bad about it after wards.
When people get together with they're family they tend to stop caring about what they eat and how much of it, the focus is the family. When my family comes together for thanksgiving we dont focus on the food as much as others, we play games and watch movies and once the food is ready we sit at the table and we eat. I wouldn't say that the food dominated the event but it is the highlight. Once we eat its back to being active, my mother doesn't like it when people sit around after they eat. Some families might exclude certain foods that are apart of the "traditional" thanksgiving meal because diabetes might run in they're family or they're over weight family members.
Some of my uncles and cousins did watch the football game after the meal, but everyone else was socializing. The death of a family member could alter the "anti-body vs body centered" cultural practice a family that usually eats fatty and salty foods that is prone to diabetes might try to change their diets after a love one dies or gets really sick from diabetes. Sometimes it takes sickness and dying for people to start to change their ways.
When people get together with they're family they tend to stop caring about what they eat and how much of it, the focus is the family. When my family comes together for thanksgiving we dont focus on the food as much as others, we play games and watch movies and once the food is ready we sit at the table and we eat. I wouldn't say that the food dominated the event but it is the highlight. Once we eat its back to being active, my mother doesn't like it when people sit around after they eat. Some families might exclude certain foods that are apart of the "traditional" thanksgiving meal because diabetes might run in they're family or they're over weight family members.
Some of my uncles and cousins did watch the football game after the meal, but everyone else was socializing. The death of a family member could alter the "anti-body vs body centered" cultural practice a family that usually eats fatty and salty foods that is prone to diabetes might try to change their diets after a love one dies or gets really sick from diabetes. Sometimes it takes sickness and dying for people to start to change their ways.
Tuesday, November 23, 2010
HW 17
1. Your experience with the topics.
I havent experience too many death experiences, saw a few suicides but never family related so I was extremely affected by it. Illness is something I am very familiar with, many family members of mine are sick and everyone is trying to cope.
2. The way you've been taught to see illness & dying.
Death happens but illness can be prevented. My mom always told me this , you wont get sick if you take care of your self and sickness can be prevented.
3. Social norms around illness & dying in our culture.
"It happens to the best of us" we tend to have pity for the sick and dead. We then decide its time to appreciate that person.
4. Your family's approach to these aspects of life.
they believe that its going to happen eventually but why deal on it, be happy and live your life.
No, I dont have any unusual perspectives
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